Here I am embarking on a project that is about the deepest and rawest aspects of my life, and I am hesitating to give my name. Maybe that makes sense. It DOES make sense. If I am going to be honest, if I am going to do what I hope to do and find something beautiful and funny and entertaining in this story, if I am going to inspire you to be less ashamed and more free with your experience, maybe I should probably introduce myself properly.
But then again – this blog is also trying to be NOT about me. It’s about the hell many of us are in, but from my specific vantage point – that of someone who feels like he has gone through all the shit and come out the other side. I’m waving down from the far lip of the pit that some fuckhead has put you in, and I’m yelling Cheer up! You’re not alone! It GETS BETTER!!!
The first of my names is Jonno. One day I may be brave enough to post the rest of it. I was sexually abused by my godfather, a prominent surgeon who shall here be known as The Good Doctor (or more likely El Pedo), from the time of my earliest recollections until I was twenty years old. When I was twenty-one, with the help of my family and an exceptional girlfriend (C.C.), I put El Pedo in jail. I don’t know how long he served, but I think his sentence was eight or nine years. Either way, he’s been out a long time. To my knowledge, he has never admitted what he did, and it doesn’t matter. I very rarely think about him.
Wow wow wow. Jonno. You continue to have me fan my flames of deep respect toward you. Your courage truly is on a level of its own. Your generosity the same. Thank you for all the toil the trouble the effort the dedication to share you talent and perspective with the world. Thank you.
I’m guessing you know that ‘El Pedo’ means the fart in Spanish. As far as your name, I personally dub you Mr. Phoenix because you have risen up from the ashes.
I had no idea but right now I am about the smiliest laughiest happiest chap in the world. El Pedo!!! AAAAAAAHHH!!! I mean – how utterly perfect.
So ‘Pedo moustaches’ are fart moustaches. Genius. I will never get sick of this.
Yours… Captain Phoenix
(I just like the word Captain. Sorry.)
OMG!! You really didn’t know? I am so glad that I could bring some joy to you. I can’t stop laughing either! I like calling you Captain Phoenix. Sounds very wordly. Writers should be worldly.
Portate bien, pero si te portes mal invitame.
Translation: Behave yourself, but if you misbehave, invite me!
Your Yank Friend, Monica
love you
love you too.
You’re Brave Artist mister Jonno
jeez… thanks. Ummm… thanks.
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Thanks, John… I am.
Brave and courageous. I never knew.
thank you.
You have a right to be angry. Keep speaking, tell your story, as there are far too many other men who share it, and need to hear that they are not alone.
brave soul.